Wednesday, May 15, 2013

LadyBird Phyllis Patterson






Phyllis M. Patterson, Writer
Nov 24, 1921 - May 14, 2013

Phyllis M. Patterson, 91, passed away peacefully, surrounded by her family, on May 14, 2013 at Rockyview General Hospital in Calgary, Alberta. She was born on November 24, 1921 in Vancouver, British Columbia to Norman and Kate (Owen) Berridge.  Adopted by her grandmother, Eda Owen, on September 9, 1929, she was raised in Edmonton. On March 19, 1942 she joined the Canadian Air Force Women’s Division and was sent overseas to London, England. Later in life she attended the University of Calgary where she obtained a B.A. in Psychology and English.

As an author, she published short stories and poetry in New Voices in Poetry, New York, Nova Scotia Book of Verse, NeWest Review, Blue Buffalo, La Revue Literaire de l’Alberta,  Papier Mache, Signatures, EOTU Magazine, Idaho, and articles in the Edmonton Journal, SkiWest Magazine, the Calgary Herald, etc. She was on the Editorial Board of the Fort Calgary Quarterly Review and Dandelion Magazine. She also taught Creative Writing at the University of Calgary and for the Calgary School board.  

Her biography of “Eda the Weatherlady”, a story about her grandmother, was published in 1995 by Kindred Spirits Publishing.

Phyllis is preceded in death by her sister Pamela and her great grandson Dash. She is survived by her children – Philip, Pamela (Joop), Jack (Eva) and Neil (Judith); nine grandchildren, Marnee (Matt), Sarah, Matthew, Amanda (Erik), Lauren, Jordan, Miles (Danielle), Amy (Chris) and Adam, and four great grandchildren – Chace, Greyson, Breanna and Alexis.

All individuals who wish to attend funeral services for her may do so on Saturday, May 25, 2013 at 2:00 p.m. at the Cathedral Church of the Redeemer – 218 7th Ave SE, Calgary, AB.  There will be a reception following from 4:00 p.m. – 6:00 p.m. at the Calgary Glencoe Club golf course, 31002 Elbow River Drive SW, T3Z 2T8. 

Those who knew Phyllis knew her fierce loyalty and love of life.  She always supported her family no matter what. She made an impression on everyone that she met (you either loved her or hated her).  She could never understand why everyone did not simply love her. As early as six years old she new what she thought was right and fought for it. 

She was known as a strong, fiery, independent individual.  The comparison to the character in the book “The Stone Angel” by Margaret Laurence is how some would describe her.  Her retired minister, Roy Darcus of Christ Church, stated that around the time she died, he was driving to her bedside amidst a sudden deluge of rain – what are you up to now, Phyllis?  A fitting end to a very full life.  The storm before the sun came out.

As a child she moved from California to Edmonton and lived with her grandmother Eda Owen (who was the first weather woman, or meteorologist, in Western Canada and maybe even the whole of North America).  In World War II, Phyllis served oversees and ran a secretarial pool for the Royal Canadian Air Force.  At the end of the war she attended the University Of Alberta in the arts program where she met her future husband the late Miles H. Patterson, Q.C.  They were married in September, 1946 (divorced in 1971) and moved to Calgary after Miles’ graduation from Law School. 

Phyllis belonged to a number of organizations including the Glencoe Club, Alliance Française, Allied Arts Center and the Calgary Ski Club. She had a late start to athletics when she had children as she did not want to watch from the sidelines.  Some of them being: driving a car (if she has driven you anywhere, you will understand the sportsmanship involved in driving), horseback riding, skiing (learned and became a ski instructor), hiking (she loved to hike), swimming, badminton and tennis. Alliance Française was formed by a group of women, including Phyllis, to promote the French language. While she was with Alliance Française she translated books from English to French and vice versa.  She was an avid supporter of the arts including the Calgary Philharmonic Symphony, the Calgary Ballet Company, the Glenbow Museum, the Banff School of Fine Arts, the National Film Board and multiple art galleries and libraries in both Banff and Calgary.  In her later years, she studied theology and completed Education for Ministry through Christ Church in Calgary.  

We will miss her sense of the ridiculous, her sense of humour, her fierce independence, her style, her dubious culinary skills, and her fierce commitment to her family. 

We encourage you to leave your memories of Phyllis as a comment in this blog.
In lieu of flowers, we wish that you donate to the Heart & Stroke Foundation 
or a Charity of your choice.

7 comments:

  1. Phyllis was my aunt (her ex-husband Miles was my mother's brother--my mom was Shirely Patterson Deale)and sadly I did not get to see her much because I have lived far away. However, I have always been so impressed by her zest for life and her passion for writing. I think that she inspired many people and she will be missed.Her book about her grandmother--the weatherlady impresssed me tremendously. I thank her for giving us all the gift of her writing and her love of life!

    Cynthia Deale

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  2. Hi Jack, Neil, Pip and Pam,

    It was a sad day to learn the passing of Phyllis...for close to 50 years I have been a close friend of the family, from our days on the ski hill, to staying with the family during my days at flight school..the many good times and stimulating chats over a fine glass of Scotts in the owls nest on most any subject...all challenging and with much laughter...a few months ago I stopped off at her residence for a wonderful visit, over lunch we engaged in interesting and stimulating chat and as always Phyllis had a very interesting point of view on most subjects.....Phyllis, you will forever be missed, never too far from my thoughts and remembering all the good times with you and your family....with love and respect rest in peace my friend.

    Roy Anderson

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  3. We are so sorry to hear of Phyllis' passing. Our families had a long history together ...

    Dad met Phyllis when they were seven years old, and they attended school together in the Highlands area of Edmonton. In her teens, Mum's family moved to Edmonton and Phyllis quickly became one of her closest friends. Dad and Phyllis were both sent overseas during WWII: they bumped into each other in London and managed to meet up for dinner a couple of times while they were there. Fortunately, both of them made it home safely after the end of the war. Phyllis married a good friend of Dad's, and the two couples continued the friendships long-distance, between Edmonton and Calgary.

    When both families were all grown up, Phyllis was footloose and often came to visit my parents. She and Mum would talk for hours, a lot of the time laughing like a couple of kids. (The two of them have likely picked up where they left off, having fun together, wherever they are.)

    Phyllis was a brave soul with a great enthusiasm for new things, for the next adventure, for life. Everything she did seemed more challenging and fascinating than the things other people were doing. 'Colourful' was the description most often used for Phyllis in our household. And the world seems paler with her gone.


    With deepest sympathies,
    The Ralph Hyde Family

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  4. Phyllis was a great lady will be missed by all great times on the ski hill.
    Traffords Tom, Katie, Randy, Bill, Geof, Tyler, Ted

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  5. Pip, Pam, Jack, Neil and family

    Our families were so close growing up in Elboya (and Banff!) ... Phyllis and Miles with Betty and George, Pip with Kelly and Doran, Pam and Megan, Jack and Neil with Brad and Curtis. We were closely bonded through school, skiing and various hijinks. We have many fond memories of Phyllis, remembering her as the unique individual she was and a fun, loving and devout friend. We will miss her.
    ~
    The Flock Family,
    Calgary

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  6. To Phyllis's family,
    I just read about Phyllis's passing. She was a very special person and I'm so sorry she has left us. I can still see her lifting her glass of Pro-seco and smiling with those beautiful blue eyes of hers when we had lunch with her at Trinity Lodge. I'm sorry I will not be at her funeral as we are travelling in the south-west u.s.a at the moment. My sincere condolences to Phyllis's family.
    ~
    Denise Berkhout,
    Calgary

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  7. Please accept my condolences - I am so sorry for your loss.

    Mrs. Patterson was a wonderful lady and had such an amazing bond with so many of us at the Glencoe Club. Her true kindness, entertaining stories and hearty laugh will long be remembered and missed.
    ~
    Jana-Lyn Fairbairn,
    Calgary, Alberta

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